039 | Gunilla Pedersen on Burnout, Boundaries, and Not Being God

039 | Gunilla Pedersen on Burnout, Boundaries, and Not Being God

When your work is about helping others, whether it’s animals, people, or both, it can be hard to draw the line between care and self-sacrifice. 

In this episode, I talk to Gunila Pedersen, a veterinarian who dealt with burnout, left the field, and then returned on her own terms after becoming a coach. 

We talk about the pressure to be perfect, the weight of euthanasia decisions, what happens when clients can’t afford treatment, and how to live with imperfection in a system that tells you to do it all. 

How it’s not just about boundaries but about giving yourself permission to be human.

 

For those who need to hear it Gunila talks about the benefits of using situational meds and about preparing for the real thing by practicing fun vet visits. No, (most) vets, don’t mind that you do this!!

We draw parallels to learning languages,  taking hammers to fridges and trying to be God.

Whether you’re a dog guardian who feels responsible for your dog’s every mood or a professional in the pet industry who struggles with not being able to help everyone you’ll find something in this conversation that resonates.

Links:

The Overwhelmed Vet Podcast: https://theoverwhelmedvetpodcast.buzzsprout.com/

Gunila’s Website: https://gunilalifecoach.com/

Get Gunila’s 10 hacks ot overcome burnout in the veterinary clinic by CLICKING HERE

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038 | Barbara van Rheenen over wanneer je hond aan de beurt is en wanneer jijzelf

038 | Barbara van Rheenen over wanneer je hond aan de beurt is en wanneer jijzelf

Barbara van Rheenen is illustratrice en woont samen met haar twee witte herders Guzzi en Lupo.

Recent schreef en illustreerde ze een boekje over wat daar bij komt kijken. Een boekje met tips over opvoeding, maar ook veel herkenbare anekdotes uit haar eigen leven, en natuurlijk met schitterende illustraties.

Het schrijven van “Wittebroodsweken- Houden van je herder” leverder Barbara een hoop nieuwe inzichten op.  

En daar gaat het in deze aflevering over:

– Hoe je je nog steeds flink verraden kan voelen door je hond, ook al weet je wat zijn gedrag veroorzaakt…
– Hoe je weet wanneer je jezelf en wanneer je je hond op de eerste plaats moet zetten
– Hoe het leven af en toe tussendoor komt en wat je dan doet
– Het loslaten van ideeën, zoals dat je hond altijd los moet kunnen lopen
– Omgaan met de angst voor een slechte reputatie in de buurt
– Hoe Barbara’s tweede hond haar liet zien dat ze helemaal niet zo verkeerd bezig was
– Of houden van honden niet betekent dat je helemaal geen hond meer moet hebben

Je vindt meer over Barbara, haar honden, haar illustraties en haar boekje op:

haar website: https://www.barbaravanrheenen.nl/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/barbaravanrheenen/

Heb je een hondenschool of dierenwinkel, of een boekenwinkel en wil je het boekje van Barbara aan kunnen bieden aan je klanten? Neem dan vooral even kontakt met haar op via direct message op Instagram of via haar website.

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Voel jij je ook schuldig als je jezelf een keer op de eerste plaats zet in plaats van je honden?

Maar ben je ook gewoon vaak total loss en vraag je je af hoe je het vol moet houden?

Dan zou mijn programma wel eens de oplossing kunnen zijn. Boek nu nog een gratis kennismakingsgesprek!

Mindset episode 025 | Listening to Your No to Find Your Yes: How to Heed Your Gut to Find That No

Mindset episode 025 | Listening to Your No to Find Your Yes: How to Heed Your Gut to Find That No

In this episode of Ruff Around the Edges, I explore the power of starting with a “no” to gain clarity on what we truly want. By identifying what we’re not willing or able to do, we make it easier to figure out where we want to go — whether it’s choosing how to manage our dog’s behavior or making parenting decisions.

I also dive into the importance of listening to your body’s signals to understand when something is a genuine no, and when it’s simply fear trying to hold you back. I give some questions you can ask yourself to differentiate between discomfort that’s protective and discomfort that signals growth, so you can feel more confident you’re doing the right thing.

If you often find yourself struggling with the fear of disappointing others or second-guessing your choices, this episode will help you shift your perspective. I propose practical ways to honor your own needs while still being mindful of the people (and dogs!) you care about.

Do you worry about disappointing others?

Do you feel out of touch with your body?

Jump on a call with me to find out how you can make decisions faster and trust that they are right for you.

037 | Claire Martin & Ozzy of Motherpuppers on Shutting Up and Showing Up

037 | Claire Martin & Ozzy of Motherpuppers on Shutting Up and Showing Up

Claire describes such familiar themes. Like what it’s like to look back at how her childhood dogs were treated with the knowledge she has now. How she thought she knew quite a bit about dogs until Ozzy came along.

 

Ozzy was adopted from a charity who had done a pretty great job preparing prospective adopters for what it’s like to bring a new dog into the home, and yet Claire, like many of us, still underestimated the reality, partly because she adopted Ozzy when he was still a puppy.

 

She talks about how it was particularly hard to be the one spending most of the time with the dog home alone and to feel like her partner was the one who just got to do the fun things with the dog, and how focusing on relaxation protocols was something that helped really well.

It had also helped to not walk Ozzy every day and we discuss what it takes to break through the socialization that exists around having to walk your dog every day to be considered a dog guardian.

We also talk about how Sarah Stremming and Hannah Brannigan inspired a “shut up and show up” mentality to bring about change in the dog world. About how the one tip Claire has for others is to put less pressure onthemselves: “Noone is going to die.”, and about what allowed her to change careers and move into dog training.

Links:

Claire’s website: https://www.motherpuppersdogtraining.co.uk/

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/motherpuppersdogtraining/

https://www.instagram.com/ozzyfromromania/

The dogwalking company Claire’s partner Matt walks for: https://fetchcambridge.co.uk/ 

Dog trainer Sarah Stremming:

https://sarahstremming.com/, and

Hannah Brannigan:
https://hannahbrannigan.dog/

Would you like to learn to put less pressure on yourself?

Granted, some stress is inevitable, but a lot of it is self-induced. 

What if you could learn to approach life in a more relaxed way? 

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036 | Leah Lykos of Canine Movement Lab on Somatic Work and Your Dog as Your Mirror

036 | Leah Lykos of Canine Movement Lab on Somatic Work and Your Dog as Your Mirror

Leah Lykos, a dog behaviorist out of Chattanooga Tennessee and guardian to three dogs, Eva, Biggie, and Mia explains how her focus is on movement and somatic work. That makes sense given that she operates from the philosophy that for dogs even more so than for humans there is no separation of mind and body.

We discuss something new to me: resistance feeding.

The idea behind resistance feeding is to not control the dog’s behavior but to provide an appropriate outlet for it.

Everything is always on a spectrum, so we discuss how to know if you’re allowing stress to dissipate or adding to the dog’s stress.

In that same sense of knowing if something is helpful or not, we touch on the concept of your dog as a mirror. When is hurting to see it that way and when is it helping?

Leah explains how she differentiates between people who are already so aware of their own stress and so focused on solving for that, that it inhibits them in working with their dog,

and people who are so detached from their body and their feelings. that they have no idea they may be projecting onto their dog.

From there we dig into the inner work we get to do thanks to our dogs.

When you have trouble connecting with your dog, what part of yourself do you have trouble connecting with or accepting?

How does understanding your dog help to understand yourself?

How do we regulate our own nervous system?

 

Leah explains that it is her daily work to figure out how she can stay passionate about what she’s doing, without getting completely wrapped up in every single case.

Are you worried your stress might be impacting your dog?

What if you could get rid of that stress? And the worry? 

How much more would you be able to enjoy life? How much more present would you be with all things non-dog as well?

Get in touch about coaching with me!

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