Bonus Episode 012 | A different way of looking at training mistakes and regret

Bonus Episode 012 | A different way of looking at training mistakes and regret

Do you sometimes feel yourself end up living in a place of regret about things you wish you had done differently for and with your dog?
Are you extra hard on yourself for having made mistakes?
Do you go to the place of what ifs a lot?

Then this episode is for you.

I talk about what regret is and most importantly about the thought error you are probably making when it comes to what specifically you are blaming yourself for.

Plus I give some practical tips as to how you can stop beating yourself up so much. (I also explain why you should stop!)

 

Would you like to stop beating yourself up?

Because that’s step 1 to a better relationship with your dog and yourself. Get on a free consult with me to see if my coaching program is a good fit for you.

009 | Ruff Around the Edges with Kajsa van Overbeek & Rusty

009 | Ruff Around the Edges with Kajsa van Overbeek & Rusty

In this episode of Ruff Around the Edges, I get interviewed by previous podcast guest Leana Mayzlina about my dog Rusty, the Mascotte of the podcast.

One of the few selfies that have us both facing forward. Team Rusty, doing what we love most, hiking in the mountains.

We discuss why I decided to get a puppy from a breeder rather than a rescue.

We talk about starting out with positive reinforcement dog training and all the doubts that go with it, and how I wish I would have had more practical advice in the beginning stages.

We also look at why regular puppy classes might not have worked as well for Rusty.

Rusty and I training in one of our puppy classes. Rusty is 12 weeks old here.

We talk about the doubts I had after Rusty had bitten another dog and got kicked out of his dog walking service. I explain what management tactics we employ whilst out on walks now, and of course, I also answer the “expectation, frustration and celebration”-questions.

Rusty is the best backpacking buddy in the world. Here he is, not quite ready to start the next hiking day yet.
Knockout after a 20km day with a full doggy backpack

Links

Instagram: @theruscattledog

Kajsa’s website: kajsavanoverbeek.com

Ruff Around The Edges Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ruffaroundtheedges

Search for a rescue dog in the database of Dutch Animal Shelters: https://dierenasiels.com/

There is no need to know the precise route before you set out. All you have to do is set out.

There is no need to know the precise route before you set out. All you have to do is set out.

Overplanning paralysis

I can’t go! I don’t know every detail yet!

Is not knowing how to get to where you’re going keeping you from departing on your journey altogether?

Starting my own coaching business is a journey. I am an amazing coach, and at the same time completely new to the entrepreneurial world. I am not 100% sure how I will navigate it yet.I have a vision of what my business will look like and a good idea of the things there are for me to learn in order to get there.

There are taxes, acquisition, international business law, and so forth and so on.

But do I know precisely what everything is going to look like as my business grows? Do I know every stop along the way? No. I do know that I just need to get and keep going.

All you have to do is decide

I was reminded of my hike on the E1 long-distance trail in Sweden. Sure, there was lots of planning involved, and maybe I could have planned more, but at one point I just had to make the decision to go for it, and when I did, everything started falling into the place.

Because I had decided to GO I had the energy and the mindset to move forward.

What was I going to do with Rusty’s dog crate, the obligatory airplane crate that he was to be transported in for example?

Well, I knew I was going to have it at the airport in Sweden and I knew I wouldn’t be taking it with me on the hike. I didn’t know how I was going to come back from Sweden, but if it was by plane I knew I would need a crate again. That’s about where I was at.

Options: store it somewhere or get rid of it and buy a new one later.

If I was to get rid of it, I wanted to donate it to a shelter. If I were to store it I needed to find out where and how much that would cost.

So, I researched shelters and posted my questions in a Swedish air travel with dogs Facebook group and one in a hiking group.

Take action

I had propelled into action. I was taking steps.

Guess what happened? Someone reached out, said they were happy to store the crate for me, and would I not want to spend the night at their house before starting out on my journey as they basically lived ON the trail.

Wait what? Yep, you heard it. All my problems were solved in one go. I even got picked up from the airport, driven around to go shopping, everything! Most importantly I got to meet three amazing people and hear their stories. One of them was even a pilot. Go figure. Aviation connects just as much as hiking does.

There were so many more instances like this along the trail, but I think I want to spend a separate post on that because on that trip the universe provided almost to the point of disbelief.

The point is, certain steps will only become clear to you after you have taken the one prior.

Set a goal, an endpoint, a destination, whether it is a business or a life goal, and then go after it! The path will reveal itself. You will grow, meet new people and develop new skills.

Wherever you end up is perfect

Here’s the kicker: even when you don’t end up where you planned to go, I promise you, you will end up where you needed to go.

For me, that wasn’t the North Cape (yet), but it was in life coach training and now in my own business.

Do you want to stop basing your actions on thoughts about all the things that could go wrong?

006| Ruff Around the Edges with Joanne Yip & Summer

006| Ruff Around the Edges with Joanne Yip & Summer

Joanne and Summer

Buckle up for a long podcast episode. Listen to it in two sittings if you wish, because there’s lots of good stuff in here.

In this episode we get to know all about Summer, a Singapore Special as rescue dogs are called in the island city-state.

Joanne gives us a little background info on what it is like to live in Singapore, and what the policies are in place when it comes to stray dogs. She gives us a feel of the general public’s awareness and perception of dogs so we have some more background to understand Summer’s journey.

A two-dog attack on Summer during one of her fear periods left both her and Joanne rattled. Nonetheless, all seemed relatively fine in the beginning, until when it wasn’t anymore.

Biiiiig smile…

She has done a lot of reflection and we discuss for example what we would now look for when selecting a dog. How some of the process and thought work that goes into selecting an appropriate breed can also still apply when trying to find your rescue dog match.

We talk about the time when she hilariously ? still thought about getting a second dog.

Joanne and her husband moved to Washington state right at the start of the pandemic. So naturally, we talk about the differences between life in Singapore and the US, and how people in the US seem to have a little more dog awareness.

Joanne also talks about the kindness of strangers and how much she appreciates meeting those humans who are considerate of her and Summer’s needs.

She explains the ongoing work she’s doing with Summer in the USA including BAT training.

Links:

Summer’s Instagram: @summer.oo

The trainer Joanne and Summer are working with on the Seattle East Side to do their BAT training: Wiggles and Woofs

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