034 | Aimee of Pawfect Behaviour on everything mindset and dogs and leaving the UK to be a Dubai dog trainer

034 | Aimee of Pawfect Behaviour on everything mindset and dogs and leaving the UK to be a Dubai dog trainer

How does a UK national end up a dog (and other animals) trainer in Dubai? Just listening to Aimee’s backstory will have you in awe of the way she has stayed true to herself making big life decisions.

We talk about how she tries to make clients feel like they can share everything with her as a trainer so that they don’t have to hide their feelings and frustration.

We discuss how breed stereotypes and other assumptions may prevent us from recognizing our dogs are in pain.  Are poodles simply fussy eaters or is there an underlying problem with their teeth causing them pain when they eat?

What about the disappointment we feel when our dog’s behavior seems to relapse? What can we do? Should we try something new or go back to basics?

Links:
Aimee’s business in Dubai:
https://pawfectgroup.com/
Aimee on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/pawfectbehaviourme/

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028 | Jumy on no longer wanting to be the only R+ horse trainer in the U.A.E.

028 | Jumy on no longer wanting to be the only R+ horse trainer in the U.A.E.

We can learn so much by getting curious about neighbouring fields.

Jumy is a positive reinforcement horse trainer from Umm Al Quwain in the U.A.E. about 30 minutes out from Dubai and I wanted to pick her brain about the similarities and differences between the horse and the dog world.

Jumy opened her own livery yard, malath paddock paradise, 3 years ago, but she’s been in the industry for 13 years already.

I ask lots of no doubt cringe worthy questions, as I know nothing about horses, and we touch upon tons of different things.

Jumy explains how bitless and tackless work with horses doesn’t always mean positive work.

She illustrates how you can move away from training a behavior like getting the horse to move using negative reinforcement in the form of leg pressure (the horse moves forward in order to get away from the uncomfortable feeling of leg pressure) by teaching the behavior first using positive reinforcement and simply letting a leg touch become a cue for the horse to perform that behavior.

We touch on hackamores, which to me come across as something similar to a head halter as is used on dogs, and competition rules, which do not always allow horses to compete bitless.

Of course I want to know how Jumy ended up in the force free training world.

Unlike the road many dog guardians take, it wasn’t because she had exhausted punitive methods or because her horse had behavioral problems. 

Rather it was trick training that sparked the idea of using positive reinforcement training to train all kinds of behavior. If you can use it to teach a horse tricks, why couldn’t you use it to teach other behaviors after all?

Being a trailblazer had both upsides and downsides.

The biggest positive was that she never fell into any kind of trap of wanting to be able to do it all and know it all at once. She simply had to follow a try-as-you-go path of discovery.

When her clients find her though, it usually is because they are experiencing problems with their horses. This leads us to discuss how Jumy’s approach to dealing with horse guardians who may be using tools on their horses that she doesn’t necessarily agree with

Her assumption is that the guardian loves their horse. She never wants to shame them or make the feel guilty about their choice of tool. Rather she lets them draw their own conclusions.

In her words:

If I teach the horse to walk, trot, reverse, counter, stop using only voice commands, do you think the owner would not use those voice commands riding? And then what do they need the bit for? It will then be their idea to go bitless.

She does draw the line at the use of spurs, but it’s her reasoning as to why that’s the most interesting to me.

In another similarity to the dog world, there is a lot of emphasis on ruling out pain (through for example a bad-fitting saddle) as a contributing factor to behavioral issues.

 

So what about the differences?  With the horse being a prey animal and the dog being a predator, Jumy explains how that affects the required rate of reinforcement.

 

Then there is natural horsemanship. Jumy explains her views on that and how horses who are trained with that method can mentally shut down.

Naturally I ask about her dogs who live at the stables and are allowed to free roam. Funnily enough they chill most of the time, unless they are breaking up horse fights or they decide to come along on a hack with the horses, that is.

Finally Jumy explains her criteria for canceling a session with a horse when she isn’t in the right mindset herself, and what the alternatives are, such as adapting the type of the session to her energy levels.

Links:

Jumy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jumys.horses/

Jumy’s livery yard: https://www.malathpaddockparadise.com/

Tango, the miniature horse, who knows how to paint and stack rings: https://www.instagram.com/tangotheminiature/

Tango stacking rings: https://www.instagram.com/p/BY0VktphmWH/

For all you dog lovers, the dogs who inhabit Mallath Paddock Paradise: https://www.instagram.com/thestabledog/

And of course Mallath Paddock Paradise on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/malath.paddock.paradise/

 

Adele, the horse trainer that Jumy got a lot of inspiration from:

https://www.instagram.com/thewillingequine/

Dog trainer Amy who was responsible for making the connection between Jumy and I:

https://www.instagram.com/pawfectbehaviourme/

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021 | Ruff Around the Edges with Sara Rafai and Kiwi, this Dubai team teaches us the importance of communication

021 | Ruff Around the Edges with Sara Rafai and Kiwi, this Dubai team teaches us the importance of communication

What do most guardians of our podcast dogs have in common? They go down the dog training rabbit hole, learning all there is to learn about dogs and dog training. At some point most of them have the thought:  “I might as well become a dog trainer now!”

Sara is no different.

We talk about that, but also about the importance of communication in her journey with Kiwi, a desert mix, as Dubai’s strays are often referred to.

What made her discontinue training with the balanced trainer that had been recommended to her? What was it about how PPG accredited Dubai trainer Aimee of @pawfectbehaviourme described her services that made it easy for Sara to switch over to force free training?

Then there was COVID. The strict lockdown in Dubai was a blessing in disguise for Kiwi and for Sara and her husband too. The latter proved instrumental for the mental health of the whole human-dog family.

His understanding attitude when Sara explained how anxiety-inducing walking Kiwi had become for her and their open lines of communication helped in turning that anxiety around.

He showed up in the background during our recording and jokingly asked Sara whether she was only saying good things about him. If you listen to this episode I imagine you’ll agree with me that that’s a resounding YES.

Scroll down for all the links!

 

Links:

Find Sara here (and consider booking her services as a trainer if you’re in Dubai): @kiwiskronicles

Aimee, Sara’s trainer and mentor, a PPG accredited force-free dog trainer in Dubai: @pawfectbehaviourme

Other Instagram accounts that get a shoutout in this episode:

@dax_theangrydog

@the_toby_project

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