If only you knew you would get there in the end, then the setbacks wouldn’t be so hard to bear.
If you just had someone who could guarantee you that, yes, your dog’s going to go after a couple more cyclists and there will be 4 more periods of regression, but for sure 100% guaranteed they’re going to get there, then that would probably make it easier to deal with the hard times, wouldn’t it?
Knowing that spring is coming makes it easier to get through the winter (well, the winters in my neck of the wood at least, which aren’t “great” in my opinion).
So how can we bottle a bit of that thinking and use it to our benefit? That’s what this episode is about.
Could your brain be doing a better job of getting you through the hard times?
If your fed up with every setback causing you to go spiraling into a vortex of negativity, eating, drinking and procrastination and want to learn tools to become more resilient, then get in touch with me about coaching!
UK veterinarian Grace and I talk about her Romanian Rescue dog Piper and how being the guardian of a challenging dog has impacted her work as a veterinarian. What were the advantages she had, being a vet already, in dealing with her dog?
We also talk about all the terms and certifications being thrown around that relate to animal behavior and training. Are there vet behaviorists in the UK? Who can call themselves that?
Did you know you can do a master’s level studies in animal behavior in the UK?
But also, did you know many veterinarians have not been taught about dog body language in vet school?
How does she start the conversation about behavior with dog guardians who may be oblivious to the plight of their dog?
And what about ruling out pain? Turns out that you as the guardian are the person in the best position to notice if chronic pain is an issue.
I also ask Grace what makes a good veterinarian in her view. The number one thing: “Find someone who will really listen to you and not dismiss you.”
This episode is all about how staying curious can help your dog, your relationships, and yourself.
It was triggered by a conversation I had with a friend who wanted to know why I didn’t use Caesar Milan’s training style, because it seemed to be working for her.
My conversation with her once more drove home the point I always try to make, which is that curiosity is the best antidote to judgment, both judgment of your dog, human others, and yourself.
It’s how we keep communication open between people and species with possibly opposing views. That communication in turn is what brings us closer together and brings about positive change in the world. Yes, I am unapologetically idealistic.
Of course, I try to come up with some practical advice on perceived criticism and how to deal with thinking someone is wrong as well, which is:
–Â When you feel an emotion bubbling up… –Â Stop and pause and get curious by asking yourself questions –Â Some questions that you can ask are:
What am I feeling now?
Why am I feeling that, or
I wonder what‘s triggering that? (Whatever wording works for you.)
What are the things I am assuming in this situation but do not actually know?
Do I have all the information?
What does this mean for me?
What do I still have to get clear on myself?
Listen to the whole episode to hear how I answered those questions and what things came up for me. I hope the episode is useful. Do let me know your thoughts!
Would you like to learn how to deal with (perceived) criticism and conflict better?
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Who can resist you when you’re staring like this Tucker?
Forrest’s story is an absolutely lovely one and different from most of the stories so far.
Forrest and his wife did not hire any trainer to help them with Tucker, but relied a lot on their own observations of him, figuring out what worked and what didn’t along the way.
Tsu, the yang to Tucker’s yin.
Absolutely not an easy feat when you consider having to rely on dog parks (gasp!) for exercising an anxious dog together with a dog sister (Tsu), that is the polar opposite of him. No, she’s not a golden retriever people :-), but she sure sounds like one.
Penelope, whom Tucker luckily gets along with
Sniffing it out!
I loved hearing how Forrest managed to find a way to balance the needs of both his very different dogs.
Buckle up for a long podcast episode. Listen to it in two sittings if you wish, because there’s lots of good stuff in here.
In this episode we get to know all about Summer, a Singapore Special as rescue dogs are called in the island city-state.
Joanne gives us a little background info on what it is like to live in Singapore, and what the policies are in place when it comes to stray dogs. She gives us a feel of the general public’s awareness and perception of dogs so we have some more background to understand Summer’s journey.
A two-dog attack on Summer during one of her fear periods left both her and Joanne rattled. Nonetheless, all seemed relatively fine in the beginning, until when it wasn’t anymore.
Biiiiig smile…
She has done a lot of reflection and we discuss for example what we would now look for when selecting a dog. How some of the process and thought work that goes into selecting an appropriate breed can also still apply when trying to find your rescue dog match.
We talk about the time when she hilariously ? still thought about getting a second dog.
Joanne and her husband moved to Washington state right at the start of the pandemic. So naturally, we talk about the differences between life in Singapore and the US, and how people in the US seem to have a little more dog awareness.
Joanne also talks about the kindness of strangers and how much she appreciates meeting those humans who are considerate of her and Summer’s needs.
She explains the ongoing work she’s doing with Summer in the USA including BAT training.
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