This episode is all about how staying curious can help your dog, your relationships, and yourself.
It was triggered by a conversation I had with a friend who wanted to know why I didn’t use Caesar Milan’s training style, because it seemed to be working for her.
My conversation with her once more drove home the point I always try to make, which is that curiosity is the best antidote to judgment, both judgment of your dog, human others, and yourself.
It’s how we keep communication open between people and species with possibly opposing views. That communication in turn is what brings us closer together and brings about positive change in the world. Yes, I am unapologetically idealistic.
Of course, I try to come up with some practical advice on perceived criticism and how to deal with thinking someone is wrong as well, which is:
– When you feel an emotion bubbling up…
– Stop and pause and get curious by asking yourself questions
– Some questions that you can ask are:
- What am I feeling now?
- Why am I feeling that, or
- I wonder what‘s triggering that? (Whatever wording works for you.)
- What are the things I am assuming in this situation but do not actually know?
- Do I have all the information?
- What does this mean for me?
- What do I still have to get clear on myself?
Listen to the whole episode to hear how I answered those questions and what things came up for me. I hope the episode is useful. Do let me know your thoughts!
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